My sister’s a bit of a selfish person here are some quotes about a toxic sister. The truth is that toxic sisters are bad, selfish, and sometimes even crazy. However, they are also very good at fighting. And they do it so well that you’d be hard-pressed to place your finger on the exact source of their strength.
It’s been said that you can’t judge a book by its cover. And while that is true, it doesn’t prevent you from doing so.
No matter what you read, don’t take it at face value. You must have done your homework to know whether or not a particular claim is true or false.
You should also be very skeptical of generalizations. Too often, people throw out the phrase “all men are wolves” and then argue why we shouldn’t believe that all men are wolves because they all have different personalities and must be covered differently in terms of being bad or good. Granted, some men are more susceptible to certain forms of peer pressure than others — but just because someone reacts well to certain things does not mean that everyone who has ever behaved according to certain stereotypes has always acted like that, nor does it mean you should automatically conclude them as being bad just because of the circumstances surrounding their lives and behavior. They may just be bad people driven by personal reasons for their actions.
Another common myth is the belief that any given worldview comes from a single source and should therefore be taken as truth; the truth being defined as “a statement made by one person with authority over another person regarding something in a specific way, based on what he says about it or based on evidence known to him personally or given to him by others in a specific way.” Truth depends upon objective fact versus subjective opinion — both of which are open to error if not checked rigorously (i.e., confirmed through empirical evidence). It also depends upon one person’s perspective relative to another person’s perspective (i.e., how they view things).
The truth is that toxic sisters are bad, selfish, and sometimes even crazy. However, they are also very good at fighting. And they do it so well that you’d be hard-pressed to place your finger on the exact source of their strength.
So, how do you fight a toxic sister? It’s as difficult as fighting an army. You can’t take them on in battle. You can only rely on your wits and the power of persuasion to overcome your problem-solving skills. And we all know that winning isn’t the point here; one doesn’t have to win in order to be a good sibling.
So what does it take to beat a toxic sister? The most basic thing is patience — time for them to see you for who you really are, not for what you think you should be or wear or look like (or any number of other superficial factors).
You don’t need to go out of your way to show vulnerability or show weakness just because she blames herself for something (just like she shouldn’t). It doesn’t mean that she has no value (she might have done something very wrong in her life, but apart from that, she has an extremely strong character). She might even be the person who taught you how to love yourself (and this is the one who should feel guilty about it). The other way around can work too: a selfish sister might always have been selfless, but now that she has a lot of experience with people and relationships, she can see past their flaws and realize the benefits of taking care of themselves. She won’t tell herself “I was once good at everything! I am still good at everything! I am better than anything! Now I will always be good at everything! Now I will never do anything wrong again! Now I will never mess up again! Oh yeah…and if anyone ever hurts me again then I will hurt them back as well! Hallelujah!!!” No one should do that anymore.